Archive for October 28th, 2009

Lazy partner?

peter w asked:


How do you persuade your partner (in this case wife) to pull her weight in a marriage if she just wants to be lazy and do almost nothing? She seems to start things and then just give up (no staying power). Divorce is not an option so dont mention it please
More details: She doesnt earn any money/ do a job, and is not looking having been not chosen for one interview; she refuses to learn to drive after having a few lessons which went fine and then giving up; she sleeps in same bed as her toddler then says that is her job done (the toddler going to our 24/7 live in nanny the rest of the day); she speaks some english but has dropped out of any course I have enrolled her on; she doesnt cook (the nanny does it); she does a small amount of cleaning, she does the food shopping (via internet), buys all toddlers clothes (with my money) and irons.

How can I motivate her to do anything else – she goes bezerk (like a box of fireworks) no matter how subtlely I try and broach the subject
JadeyOz that is the most bitter and offensive post i have ever seen – regardless of whether you are making any valid point, your abusive aggressive manner means your argument is not measured or balanced, therfore ignored – speak like an adult if you wish to have your views listened to
thanks for trying but you are not understanding the situation completely

she will not go to english classes
she will not cook
she will not let anyone teach her to drice
she will not try to get a job
this is a pretty complicated problem – i dont need sympathy because we do have enough to have a reasonable life, it just winds me up im doing all the work.
On the plus side she is a stunner and the *** life is amazing! lol. and she is a right laugh we never stop talking and joking (married 5 years now and the conversation and fun is non stop without a break)
I just need some cunning plans to get her off her ***!

Steven R asked:


Law and Order: SVU had a perfect example of just how selfish a parent could be by not vaccinating a child.

Basically, the show started out with a young mom who went out partying and stated that she had left her baby girl with a nanny. Of course there was no nanny and the young mom had actually buried her dead daughter. The daughter at the time was not old enough to get a vaccine yet.

The mom thought that when the baby was crying she had hit her too hard and she panicked. Except that the baby didn’t die from being hit, instead she died from the measles.

It turns out in one of the parks that the mom took her daughter too there was a woman who’s son who had been sick and turns out had the measles, so the virus was spread because the mother did not get the vaccine for the child.

The mom with the kids who had measles was arrested for the babies death. She was found not guilty.

But, there’s more to the episode. After the woman was found not guilty there was a 911 call to her residence. You see the grandfather of the young woman who had her baby die run into the house.

The show makes it seem like he went in their to kill the woman who had the kid with the measles, but that’s not what happened. He shot himself in the head and in his hand was a picture of his grand daughter.

So, not only was this woman responsible for a death of a baby, she’s responsible for the death of the man as well.

Just because you choose to not vaccinate your child doesn’t mean it won’t have an effect on another child.

The babysitter has know the family for more then a year…helps them out routinely on the weekends for more then 72 hours. I am just wondering, as when it comes to legality, guardianship etc, would a babysitter be granted the status for emergencies, other purposes?

By: Jessica Alba

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