Archive for October 31st, 2009

My Dad majorly favors my younger brother?

Author: admin

Oct 31

kadjfajlfs asked:


I try so hard in school to make my dad proud and my brother gets average grades, he doesn’t play any sports, throws temper tantrums constantly and hes 10 years old! i’m almost 14 and i feel like i can’t live up to what my dad expects of me. he always chooses my brother over me and i really can’t take it. yesterday we were gonna go fishing and hes like well if the nanny doesn’t show up then sam’s just gonna have to stay home and watch the baby, and its ridiculous cause i would have to do that because the boys wanted to go fishing so i wouldn’t get to? luckily my step mom always tells my dad that’s wrong, but her and my dad are in the process of a divorce so shes not around as much but still pretty often. my dad is a little sexist because he thinks boys are better a sports and he almost didn’t let me go fishing yesterday because i was a girl. my step mom told him to treat all the kids equally and always lets him know that my brother is misbehaving and he still throws temper tantrums. i am really girly but i play soccer and tennis and my brother plays no sports so who is my dad to say that girls can’t play sports? how can i tell my dad to stop the favoritism. what is so good about my brother? my dad has 4 biological kids and 2 step kids; out of the 6 my brother is the 5th and hes my dads only biological son and my dad also has a stepson.

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Which girl name do you like better?

Author: admin

Oct 31

Boston Mom asked:


My husband and I are having a baby girl in December, but we can’t decide on a name. We’ve narrowed it down to three names that we really love. Which one do you like best, and why? Which is your least favorite and why? We really want your honest opinions, just no rude comments. We’d love middle name suggestions, but keep first name suggestions to a minimum. Here are the names we’ve chosen:

Ella-Ann Christine- Ella is a name we both love, Ann is after my grandmother who recently passed, and Christine is a name we love, but also happens to be my aunt’s name.

Charlotte-Rose Kristine- Charlotte is also a name we love, and Rose is my middle name. We’d spell Christine with a K because we think there would be too many Chs if we spelled it the traditional way. Do you think this name is too long?

Vivienne Grace- Just a name we love. Not sure on the middle name, though. I’d really like to use a family name, but I can’t figure out how to make it flow.

Here’s the family names (I’ll also write the men’s names in case you know a feminine version) I know it’s tough to make these into middle names, so if you don’t have the time or patience you don’t have to, I’d just appreciate it since all of these people have had HUGE roles in my life. My husband isn’t close to his family, unfortunately.
Mary Virginia (my grandmother, but she went by her middle name)
Anne Mary (my other grandmother. The grandkids all called her Nanny Annie)
Colleen Mary (my mother’s name, but Colleen is already my oldest daughter’s middle name, so let’s leave that one out.)
Kelley Marie (aunt)
Erin Maureen (aunt)
Christine Mary (aunt)
Silvia Ida (aunt, but I really don’t like the name Ida, so let’s leave that one out.)
Thomas Patrick (uncle)
John Michael (uncle)
James Edward (uncle)
Thomas Richard (cousin)
Jamie-Lee (cousin, this is a girl btw, i know it’s a unisex name so i just wanted to let you know)
Benjamin James (cousin)
Kelly Elizabeth (cousin)
Shea Ellen (sister)
Jamie Erin (sister)

I really appreciate your help, it means so much to my family and I. Like I said, you don’t have to do anything with the family names if it is too much work, but if you do I’ll appreciate your assistance that much more.
Ok, a couple things- First, we’ve decided that the three first names are DEFINITE, so no first name suggestions, please. Second, (this is for steph_k) I guess I failed to mention that my name was Virginia, Ginny for short lol, so I’d never give that name to my daughter. My husband’s name is Rob, but please no suggestions for the middle name Roberta or something. We knocked that one off the list a while ago. OK well thanks so much for your help!!!!!!

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Unstable relationship with a dad who seems to live on another planet?

Author: admin

Oct 31

Nat asked:


This is long, but I would appreciate someone reading it all and taking the time to hear what I have to say.

My relationship with my father has been through the ringer throughout my entire life. I am to the point now where I don’t know what to do and I am thinking about throwing my hands up and just keeping him out of my life…

My situation now, is… I am 25 years old and I am engaged to get married. My fiance and I have been together for 4 years and we had planned to marry next year, however I got pregnant. My fiance and I decided to postpone the wedding so I wouldn’t be overwhelmed with wedding plans and I could just concentrate on being pregnant. We agreed to get married maybe a year after the baby is born, which only puts us back about 9-10 months from when we originally wanted to get married. With that said, my dad (who has decided when it’s more conveinant for him to be my father, not consistant at all) has decided to lecture me on the value of being married when we bring our daughter into the world… he tells me how much it hurt him when him and my mom split up and he couldn’t have me around all the time. But all I remember from my child hood is when it was his turn to get me on the weekends he would leave me with a nanny and go party on Friday and Saturday nights and on Sundays when he took me back to my moms, he would call that our special bonding time and that would make up for Fri and Sat. He has been married 3 times, and the 2nd marriage he would cancel a lot of my weekends with him because he had out of town plans with his wife, and the third marriage she is 29 years old from Vietnam and she barely speaks english. If I ever bring up the status of my pregnancy (ie… doctor’s visits, kicking, anything) he just blows it off and changes the subject to talk about something about himself, his new wife, or his career. However whenever he brings up my pregnancy he always refers to my daughter as HIS grandchild. Growing up I was a good kid… I made good grades, never got into much trouble, served in the military, and I’m months away from getting a bachelor degree…. I will never be good enough for him, and it seems like he has a problem with the fact that my child will be born out of wedlock… when he’s the one who encouraged my fiance and I to live together. (what did he think would happen?) Things happen. Also I don’t understand his stance on tradition all of a sudden when he has had numerous affair’s all of 3 of his wives.

How do I deal with this man? I guess you can’t choose who your parents are, huh??
I meant to say… Numerous affairs on all three wives.

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