kimmers asked:
We recently just hired a nanny to watch our 3 year old twins and we have nanny cams installed in our home for both our child’s safety as well as for sense of ease. Anyways, we caught our nanny on camera going through my lingerie drawers as well as through my closet in our bedroom. We confronted her about it without allowing her to know we have her on camera and she denied it. She didn’t steal anything and simply just looked through our things. She is great with our twins and works wonderfully with our schedule. My husband and I aren’t sure what to do. Any suggestions?
We recently just hired a nanny to watch our 3 year old twins and we have nanny cams installed in our home for both our child’s safety as well as for sense of ease. Anyways, we caught our nanny on camera going through my lingerie drawers as well as through my closet in our bedroom. We confronted her about it without allowing her to know we have her on camera and she denied it. She didn’t steal anything and simply just looked through our things. She is great with our twins and works wonderfully with our schedule. My husband and I aren’t sure what to do. Any suggestions?
15 comments
Comment by Marla on October 26, 2009 at 9:21 am
Thats a hard one. The most important thing is that she is taking care of your babies. If you are happy with that and she isnt stealing then I guess I would keep watching her and see if she goes any further.
Comment by crackerjack23055 on October 28, 2009 at 10:33 pm
if you don;t want anyone going throw your stuff. fire her
Comment by mom of 2 on October 31, 2009 at 10:47 pm
Well if everything else is so good, you may want to let it slide. If you catch her again, You need to FIRE her immediately. You should be able to find another good nanny
Comment by Titties on November 3, 2009 at 8:18 am
Maybe put a lock on your door or drawers to keep her out.
We’re all guilty of going through other peoples stuff at one point or another.
Comment by Kiari on November 4, 2009 at 3:02 pm
She lied to you.
I would not let anyone watch my children who lied to my face. Lying is not acceptable in my house whether it is me, my husband, my child.. or someone watching my child. How can you teach values like not lying to a child if the person is a liar?
Fire her. That camera won’t always be on your child and who knows what she will lie about next. I would also confront her, explain to her you know she lied. I would NOT keep her because she is convenient to my schedule etc. that isn’t acceptable, if she would ve been honest.. then I would have considered keeping her.. but she LIED!
Ask yourself this.. if you were calling a potential nanny’s references and a previous employer told you that they found her going through their stuff, then lied about it even though they had it on camera would you hire her? Or would you keep looking?
Comment by arcticdancer on November 4, 2009 at 11:33 pm
sorry i wouldn’t keep someone who is dishonest and can’t own up to a something innocent like that. think about if it had been something serious. no way would i trust that woman. get rid of her now. find someone trustworthy.
Comment by cgspitfire on November 7, 2009 at 1:51 am
Buh bye, Nanny! Just because nothing was taken doesn’t give her the right to go through your things. Also, the fact that she was caught red handed and lied to you is even more disturbing. I would not have her in my home with my children. If she’s willing to lie for something she was caught doing, what else will she lie about when she’s not caught red handed?? Ultimately, in the end, all we have is our reputations and in my opinion, her’s is now tarnished.
Comment by spcfulks_wife on November 7, 2009 at 3:50 am
This is really tuff. I would wonder what she was looking for! probably money, alot of people keep a stash in the closet ofsock drawer. I wouldn’t want it to go any further. I would tell her that you caught her on the nanny cam and that she needed to explain herself or lose her position. i wouldn’t tell her where the cams were. and I would tell her that they would remain in the home. I would explain to her that THIS is one of the reasons that people need to have the cams. If she refussed to tell you, then I would get rid of her. there are hundreds of nannies out there, no need to settle for one that rummages through your personal things!!
Comment by Ima on November 7, 2009 at 10:35 am
She lied to you. That is not right. If she can lie about this, what else would she lie about? Her history, her references…I do not like people snooping through my stuff. it shows total lack of respect. Why wait till you catch her doing something to your children and lying about it. Fire her and find someone responsible.
Comment by zack's my handsome little ma on November 7, 2009 at 1:41 pm
fire her!!!
Comment by Super Girl on November 9, 2009 at 7:02 am
I would say give her a second chance. She was probably just bored or curious or something. If it happens repeatedly, tell her you know for a fact she did it if she still lies about it. But if she really didn’t do anything that bad, like steal, just give her another chance.
Comment by Bec on November 9, 2009 at 2:42 pm
i wouldlet her know you have a nannycam and that you cought her on camera and tell her its acceptable that she lies and goes through your things i would fire her i would **** it if someone snooped in my things …..
Comment by benandjerryluvr on November 11, 2009 at 4:50 pm
Either install a lock on your door if you truly feel that the quality of care your children receive is exemplary, or fire her, becaus she obviously cannot tell the truth. It kinda makes me wonder what else she has pulled without your knowledge.
Comment by Buckeye4Life on November 14, 2009 at 5:04 pm
Fire her. Not that going through your stuff isn’t what we all have done at some point.
When you rehire, tell the person that there are cameras. Explain that it’s not her, and it makes you feel better knowing you have the ability to go back and look if something goes wrong. Knowing up front, I guarantee that the next one won’t go through your stuff!
Comment by mmebarr on November 15, 2009 at 11:35 pm
I know this seems odd, but if you were in someone’s house for 8-10 hours, five days a week, I think your curiosity might eventually get the best of you, as well. And would you fess up to looking through someone’s panties? How embarrassing. If you feel uncomfortable, just tell her you would prefer to keep your bedroom a private place for your husband and yourself. If she can’t respect that, then maybe you have bigger issues.