Now that you have selected a nanny, it’s time to determine how to best integrate the nanny into your home. Prior to the nanny arriving for work, make sure your children have met them and understand the role they will play in their home. Make them understand that this is someone they must listen to.

Be sure to have a family dinner for the first few nights to ensure the relationship is working well. At this point, it’s important to focus on: Reassuring the nanny that you stand behind them by allowing them to make decisions for your child and honoring the steps and decisions that the nanny makes. If your child approaches you and says that the nanny is being mean, try to resist the urge to attack them. Instead, tell your child that the nanny is right. Making sure the nanny knows that you and your child have open communication with each other. If your child has complaints or there are problems with the two of them getting along, you’ll want to play the mediator, but don’t critique them in front of the child or the other way around. Establishing the routine for the day. You’ll need to pay close attention to the things that need done and how they will get done. Develop a schedule that allows for some flexibility. Do this with the nanny, or allow the nanny to do it.

Communicate frequently with your children and your nanny. Set up time to meet with them one on one each week to discuss any concerns, questions and progress.

By: Hilary Basile

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