Lilac_43 asked: My daughter is 16 months. She has a private babysitter who has a daughter of her own that is 2 1/2. My problem is that even though she has a large, plastic smock-like bib at the sitter’s house, my daughter often comes home with her shirt covered with stains, as if she never wore a bib at all! I work 10 hour days, so I don’t always get to pre-treat or do laundry right away. When I have tried to bring up the subject, ‘my her shirt is messy today’, Karen, the sitter, always has an excuse, like ‘Oh, she took her bib off and I didn’t notice’. Now, have my daughter myself all day, every day for three days in a row, plus one other evening, and ever morning for breakfast, and she NEVER gets that messy, although I do let her feed herself. I just don’t know how to approach Karen without coming across as bitchy or offensive. I do not dress my daughter in designer stuff, but she does look nice and I already choose not to dress her in certain outfits, because she may come home all stained! I am just tired of spending late nights scrubbing out stains and washing and rewashing, over and over to try to get out stains that could have been prevented if they were treated at the time! Does anyone have any suggestions?
I am a practical mom, so even though my daughter will outgrow her clothes quickly, I still do not want them to be stained, so that I can pass them on to other children I know or sell or donate them, rather than have them just be trash.
Unfortunately, I am a single mother, so I do not have the option of staying home to be with my daughter, unless I want to be on welfare and food stamps, which I do not believe to be a good option, since I am perfectly capable of working.
My daughter has plenty of fun when she is with me, I am not ridiculous about her not getting dirty. I think children should be allowed to get dirty when they are playing. She is not getting dirty while she is playing, she is getting ridiculously messy while she is eating. The point is, if you do not have a helpful response to my question, which is how can I tactfully ask my babysitter to pre-treat stains, then why are you answering?
Thank you, everyone, who has offered helpful suggestions. I do see several promising responses.