Archive for August, 2011

How to be a good babysitter?

Sour Cherry asked:


I’m 17 and since im on vacation and can’t find a real job, my mom said she’ll pay for my senior year needs as long as i take care of my little brother. he is 5 years old. right now we’ve been watching tv all day, we are so bored and i feel bad for the kid. I dont know what to do with him. i cant go anywhere because i dont have a car….. what should i do to entertain him?

MrsJones asked:


I keep seeing posts about people being offended about the invitations that exclude the kids… I’m inviting a bunch to mine I don’t mind because I know how hard it can be to find good babysitters. ANYWAY, I just thought I’d throw it out there and see if anyone has had any nightmare stories with kids and weddings/receptions. I’ll start…
Last summer I was invited to a wedding and the bride called and asked me not to bring my baby because she was calling and telling everyone no kids… She said that she found out her cousin was going to bring her 2 boys (2 and 3) and she didn’t want that so she thought it would be best to call and say no to everyone. Well I can’t blame her the cousin doesn’t watch her kids very well and that’s being nice. Anyway, my son was 8 months old… The wedding was about an hour and a half away and we decided to grant her wishes and had my fiance’s mom babysit. About 8 parents brought their children even though they were asked not to, including that cousin.. Melody just said you know what it’s my day I’m not going to let it bother me… Then halfway through the ceremony the 2 year old started screaming and running down the aisle and the mom didn’t do anything about it. He only did it for a minute until Melody’s mom went and took him outside… BUT at the reception, the 2 and 3 year old were running all around the hall and started chasing each other around the cake table… and knocked the cake onto the floor!
Yeah see these are the type of experiences I’m talking about! I planned in anticipation for it lol… We are getting married at a lighthouse in August and just off in the distance is a beach, I have 3 younger cousins 15,16,18 that have agreed to take the kids down at the beach during the ceremony… And the reception is being held across the street from a big field and playground and again, they are going to take the kids over there to play… They think that they are doing it just because they offered but my fiance and I have decided to give them all $50-$100 for doing it depending on how many kids there are. lol I wasn’t interested in having a backup cake.
You guys all have some interesting stories! I can’t pick a favorite. For the kids that burned the tent OMG I would have died. And the girl that ripped the petals off the roses what a spoiled brat the parents are doing good. The girl who ran her finger across the cake in front of the bride and groom WOW ok maybe I’ll vote you best answer because if that happened to me at my wedding I don’t even want to think about it. Any of the horrible stories lol. I was sharing these last night with my fiance and he said that our kids (we have 2 7 year olds and a 14 month old) would know better than to even try to pull any of this so it goes to show the parenting. And he apparently does not agree with my idea of having kids at the wedding or reception. He said aside from our 3 kids no kids under the age of 13 lol.

shoe shoe asked:


I am in the midst of hiring a babysitter. I would like to have a very thorough application for the applicants to fill out, any idea where I can find a good template???

Babysitter on New Year’s Eve?

who?what?where?when?why? asked:


This is a question for babysitters alike and parents who occasionally leave their kids in the hands of a babysitter. What do you think?

New Year’s Eve is a big party night for couples, leaving their kids in the trusting hands of a babysitter. I live on a street with several little kids. Currently, I have been asked by only one household to baby-sit their kid, but I know that other parents will eventually ask me to also baby-sit.

This question is really three questions:

Which household do I baby-sit for?
How do I say “No” or the “I’m already taken?”
I know it’s some-what rude and unfair to the first person who called for me if I take a different set of kids. How do I handle this situation if I choose differently?

Here are some facts:

I charge:
$5 per hour = 1 kid
$6 per hour = 2 kid
$7 per hour = 3 kid
(Please no remarks on how much I charge.)
*Parents usually ignore my rate and extremely overpay me.

The different sets of kids:

Household A:
1 kid- 4 years old
Experience: (Only once) POSITIVE, we watched a movie and ate popcorn. I only babysat for 1.5 hours and the parents paid me $20. The kid was sweet when I baby sat him but I know he has the potential to be troublesome.

Household B:
2 kids- 2 year old/ 4 year old
Experience: MIXED, these kids are spoiled, spoiled, spoiled. They watch TV every time they eat a meal and have so many toys that they don’t know what to do with them. The four year old even locked himself purposely in a room so I couldn’t get to him. I still love them. This household is like extended family to me.

Household C:
3 kids- 7 year old/ 9 year old/ 11 year old
Experience: MIXED, now one of these kids is Bipolar so I give him a little slack when he acts up. The youngest one cries real easily and throws fits when I tell him to sit in a corner or go to his room. I have no trouble with the oldest. If the younger kids won’t listen to me, the parents have me call them so they can end it over the phone. Overpay often when they are in a good mood.

Household D:
3 kids- 5 year old/ 7 year old/ 8 year old
Experience: POSITIVE, these kids are great when they don’t get riled up (which happens often). They are very disciplined except when they decide it’s funny when the babysitter gets hurt when they want to wrestle and tackle her.

Who should pay for babysitter?

EJ asked:


I am dating a single mother. I would like to take her out for dates more often, but she expects me to pay for the babysitter whenever we go out. I think that if I invite her someplace, she should pay for the sitter while I handle the other expenses. I also feel that she can decline the invite if she can’t afford a sitter.
At times I have offered to pay for the sitter, but I can’t afford to all the time. She pays her sitter $15 an hour for one toddler, who is in bed the entire time.
Also, it should be noted that she chose to be a single mother. She became pregnant through artificial insemination while she was single. I feel the child-related costs are hers.
This has only become a problem recently because she complains that we don’t go out alone often enough, but honestly, I can’t afford many dates when the cost $200 a night.
We go out during the day time at least three times a week for family-friendly activities, which we take her son to. I foot the bill for all 3 of us. Also, I cook dinner for us nightly. I’m just looking for a way to spend special time with her. We do movies and games at the house or even a drive-in movie where the baby can sleep. I just want adult time once in a while.
Also, the sitter is one that she picked by going through a 4-stage interview process. She is very particular about who watches her son and how well the person is paid.

Claire C asked:


I’ve got 2 kids, age 3 and 4 mos, no mom or mother in law, no family close. How can I find a good daytime or occasional babysitter? BTDT, how did you? THX!

anniversary gift ideas asap?

stsis asked:


It is our anniversary today and I have not got anything for my husband. We just bought a new house and we have been super busy moving all weekend. We will still be moving stuff tonight so the whole day is hectic. I know he didn’t get me anything large(just because of spending on the new house and being so busy).
We don’t go out much because we have a child with a disability and it is very hard to find good babysitters in our area.
My husband is a wonderful hard working man, who does little besides, work and take care of the kids. He doesn’t have any hobbies. He will play video games with the kids, and he likes to dabble in carpentry when he has the chance on the weekends (but usually to build stuff for the kids).
W live in smaller town so I don;t have many choices beyond target walmart etc for last minute gifts.

babysitter or daycare?

Jenna C asked:


Ok, so i’m going to a party that my sister is throwing but it’s for adult’s only and i’m wondering if i should get a babysitter or daycare for my daughter while we’re away. We would be gone all night and wouldn’t be back until morning or early afternoon. If I did chose a daycare it wouldn’t be a company daycare it would be one at sombodys home, but would they keep her for the night? I’m wondering which one would better, what are some pro’ and cons? And also, my daughter is 7 and in diaper’s because she has a kidney problem and cannot control her bowel movements.
So please tell me what the pro’s and cons are between a babysitter and daycare?
I have never had my daughter looked over by anybody except for me and my husband so this is why i’m asking this question.
No she is not able to use the bathroom. She cannot feel the need.

jay asked:


new parent researching babysitters. Wife and i work in downtown area approx 40 minutes from home. i’ve heard benefits to both sides.
we have done lots of research and have found great, qualified, clean and responsible locations on both sides.
ok. along the same question. what do you believe are things i should be looking for in my research?

charlottesparkles asked:


I need a safe, reliable, flexible babysitter for my five year old daughter. I have to be at work at 4am, and my days off rotate monthly. I need someone near the airport who is willing to take her to Scenic Heights Elementary or is on the bus route. She will be no trouble on weekdays, because she will sleep until you get her up for school. On weekends I get off at 1230. She will sleep til 8 or nine so it’s really only 3 or 4 hours of actually watching her. She is very easy to take care of. I just need someone close to where we live (darn gas prices) and who is willing to work with my ever changing schedule. PLEASE HELP!! I am desperate!