Tips on having family members as caregivers from Sheila Lirio Marcelo, Founder and CEO of Care.com. “When Granny is Nanny. Nearly 50% of families rely on relatives to care for their loved ones but what happens when you and your mom don’t see eye to eye on childcare issues? Here’s some advice to consider. First, be clear about “your rules.” You feel strongly about healthy snacking but your mom is constantly baking treats for the kids. With relatives, it’s important to clarify your expectation up front. Being honest and open will help your relatives understand why you’re asking for certain things. Second, don’t overstep boundaries. Respect your family members personal time. You know your sister will always love you and forgive you when you arrive ten minutes late but if you expect her to adhere to your wishes and rules then you need to do the same by keeping your word. Third, don’t sweat the small stuff. There may be small things that irritate you but what’s more important to you at the end of the day- dirty dishes or the fact that your kids are happy and well cared for?”