Guidance on the issue of babysitter poaching and nanny napping from Shelia Lirio Marcelo, Founder and CEO of Care.com. “Babysitter Poaching and Nanny Napping. Your babysitter is the envy of all your friends- congratulations! But what happens when one of them asks to borrow her? Here’s some advice to consider. First, don’t jump to conclusions. Your friend asked to borrow your sitter and your immediate inclination is to say no but if your friends needs help just for one night, perhaps you can share the wealth! Second, provide a plan B. Turn your defense into offense. See if you can help your friend find another option, maybe even a friend of your sitter. And third, consider your babysitter’s bottom line. At the end of the day, she has bills too. If you’re only using her part time it might help her to get some extra hours with your friends family. Just be sure she knows how important she is to your family. She’ll appreciate your concern for her needs.